My five year old son loves building with his Legos. He'll spend a great deal of time constructing a perfectly symmetrical robot or fortress of some kind. Then along comes the diabolical one year old little sister bent on utter destruction. Mason, gently hugs his masterpiece with one hand and keeps her away with the other. "No! Daddy, tell her to stop!" he yells. Mason, not knowing that it is fully within his power to take control of the situation, looks to me for help. I use this as a teachable moment in the hopes that he'll be able to handle similar or more daunting problems in the future.
What does he not realize that nearly all of us miss as well? He's not looking to the solution. He simply sees Campbell as the problem and doesn't know what else to do. We must change our focus if our marriages are to improve. What can be done to make your life what you hope? Look to the solution. This may be in the form of a book, a friend, or even counseling, but whatever you do, stop focusing on the problem and start looking to what you're going to do to have a mind-blowing marriage.
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