Something that children rarely understand but that they need to hear is that we parents discipline them because we love them. My four year old sounded surprised when we told him this, but it is of course true. You correct your child because you want him to be safe, you do it because you want him to be successful, and you do it because you don't want him acting like, "that kid." So, after the message of time out, spanking, or grounding is done, don't forget the hug when you believe it's appropriate.
Although, some parents who love their kids don't correct them like they should and they will admit this. I believe this is because it takes courage to direct your child. Parents, afraid of being like their own parents, stay away from punishments that could be labeled, "harsh." I understand the apprehension here. Parents must mold their children without breaking their spirit. This is very important to remember, but at the end of the day, a consequence must be effective or parents aren't doing their job.
Correct your child with personal discipline and intention on your part or "that kid" might end up being "your kid."
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