Men hate ties. No matter how good they may look, many men would rather wear a dress than a constraining rope with an argyle pattern. What’s crazy is that the tie is not the issue. The real issue is with the shirt. The neck hole is too small. If you’ve ever worn a tie you know that you constantly have to make sure it’s not falling down or going crooked. The tie does nothing to choke you. Men miss this point all the time. Men and women can easily miss the point when it comes to personal issues as well.
It’s never about putting the toilet seat down and it’s never about a missed birthday. The real issue is that a woman does not feel that her needs and desires are being met. If the man was perfect on the issues above, something else would surface if the wife did not feel loved and noticed by her spouse.
Men and women want to be good parents but they don’t often see where they mess up. Women especially ask, “Why does my son do this? Where is he getting this behavior from?” This questions isn’t near as important as, “What am I going to do to correct his behavior?”
In our marriages and in our parenting, let’s be sure to not miss the real issue. Ask parents you admire, read a book on the subject, or watch Super Nanny. She really knows her stuff.
