As strange as this sounds, something that is lacking in our homes today is decisiveness; a firm resolve in regards to what people believe. Parents who are not firm in their discipline nor communicate their values are depriving their children of self-control and a moral compass; two tools that are truly lacking in today’s society. These tools, if passed on effectively, will help children grow into well-adjusted adults who will be internally stronger than most anyone.
Women too appreciate men who can make decisions. Have you ever been out with your wife or girlfriend, and asked them where they wanted to eat. Maybe she replies, “I don’t care.” Is this frustrating to you? Here’s what’s really going on. She wants you to decide but in a particular way. She doesn’t want to hear, “Let’s go to Buffalo Wild Wings, the Titans are playing.” This says to her, that you’ll be eating and watching the game, not paying attention to her. Here’s what she wants to hear. “I know you like this place, so let’s go here.” You made a decision (an obvious sign of confidence which is always sexy) but you also made it with her interests in mind. You might as well have sent her flowers, big guy.
Women too appreciate men who can make decisions. Have you ever been out with your wife or girlfriend, and asked them where they wanted to eat. Maybe she replies, “I don’t care.” Is this frustrating to you? Here’s what’s really going on. She wants you to decide but in a particular way. She doesn’t want to hear, “Let’s go to Buffalo Wild Wings, the Titans are playing.” This says to her, that you’ll be eating and watching the game, not paying attention to her. Here’s what she wants to hear. “I know you like this place, so let’s go here.” You made a decision (an obvious sign of confidence which is always sexy) but you also made it with her interests in mind. You might as well have sent her flowers, big guy.
Husbands also like decisiveness in their wives especially when she knows his interests and works to meet those. She keeps the spark alive and he is motivated to do the same. He chooses the restaurant well and then she returns the gesture later on because she understands her husband. She knows his likes and dislikes then works to meet his needs because she sees that he’s working so hard to meet hers. The relationship isn’t kept alive by accident but rather it is kept alive by deciding appropriately where to eat, what to do after dinner, and how things are done at all times surrounding these events.
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