In either case, my answer to the men is this. Don’t give her a reason to make you a laughing stock in front of your friends. Does she respect you? If not, there may be a good reason. Almost every little girl wants her Prince Charming and once she’s grown up; her vision of him has not changed much. She wants a strong leader for her home who can make confident decisions while still encouraging her to grow in her potential as a woman.
Does she nag? She may not want to do this but maybe it’s the only thing that can get you motivated. Nagging becomes a pattern typically because asking wasn’t getting the job done. First, she asks you to do something. Second, you don’t do it and this pattern continues until the “Honey dears” become “GET OFF THE COUCH AND FIX THE TOILET PAPER HOLDER!” The more this is done, the more she expects that she will have to irritate you to death in the future to get anything accomplished. You’re not taking care of business, so she has to in her own way. What’s worse, there may be more important things than honey-dos that she’s missing from you.
As you know, the female Black Widow kills the male after they mate. Apparently, she learned early on that he was not going to take care of business so she had to. See the link? I wish our homes did not resemble this, but sadly, many do. The man does his thing, the woman does hers and the only thing missing when an argument erupts is a little venom and a red hour glass.
To the women I would say, “Is your laughter warranted?” Nothing can reduce your man to a mouse quicker than parading his failures around for everyone to see. While he should work every day at being a stronger man for his family, making him the butt of jokes (which for some reason is politically correct) will not help him in this journey. It will only make the obstacles seem more insurmountable as he works to thwart off your attacks too.
Secondly, is your nagging warranted? Too often we focus on what is not being done. Have you noticed what is being done? What is he good at? Asking this question will help you see the good in him as you help him be a better man. He wants to be your prince. Help him with this by not making him an ogre.
Once a balance is reached, the husband and wife learn they can depend on one another and are better for it.
